Today I accompanied my husband to a bar bc it’s his bday weekend and we haven’t gone out in about a month actually. He drank beer and I drank soda and cranberry (and it was delicious). The bartender offered him a bday tequila shot and that was my go-to shot when I used to do shots. Then she pulled out all these different brands of tequila and explained how good they were to me. The bartender kept offering me alcohol, even after declining like 3-4 times, I stayed strong. No alcohol. That was the first time since this stretch of sobriety that I’ve gone into a bar. For a second what felt natural was getting a shot with him, but I didn’t. And I just reminded myself of how I’d feel after, and I didn’t have the urge. It felt great and I feel stronger and happier for it. It was a strange place to be in, but I’m still learning how to connect with my husband (connecting over drinks was our default, since we met 11 years ago.) It’s a transition. Anybody have spouses/partners who still partake? Just sharing.