I pick and choose the ones I really want to go to and I don't go if I don't want to go. I am very stingy with my time and energy because I am a single mom and in recovery and have adhd so I get socially exhausted quickly, and that's when I start feeling like I need something. So I protect my peace and have found that I really like being alone or with my kids better than being social all the time. I took a lot of hits from people that were supposed to love and care about me when I was in my mess so I don't really make time for anyone except my kids and work people anymore.